I was reading an article a few years ago about men who step outside of their relationships. Men were talking about how they would engage in certain activity if they were interested in another man's wife or girlfriend.

*One guy said he would leave some squirts of shaving cream in the bathroom as a message to the other guy

* Another man said that he would make sure to leave a small bottle of men's cologne in the wives/girlfriend cabinet while he was in the bathroom

* Another commented that he would leave a couple of condoms inside the boyfriend/husbands clothes that were on the floor or in the closet when the girlfriend or wife left the room for a few minutes

* Several men stated that they would locate the husband/boyfriend's phone number or address and call mentioning the other guy's wife/girlfriend and either hang up afterward or make comments to make sure the husband/boyfriend was aware that they were wives/girlfriend were unfaithful.

* A few would contact the other guy by phone or mail and outright say" in print or by phone "dude I am banging, f*cking, boning .... (fill in whatever crude term you want to)your wife, girlfriend etc...

I was appalled and disgusted by such behavior!

Recently, I have become friends with a guy who recently went through a divorce. He has two boys. He mentioned that his wife had an affair with seven (7) men! Talk about a tramp!!! Three of the men ( he found out in the court custody case) , had sex with his wife upstairs while the kids were downstairs watching television in his bed!!!! In this case, the sad reality was that he knew two of the guys! I was like "WOW! I jokingly told him that he handled the situation like a suburban White man. I would have handled things like a MBM mad Black man! We both laughed. Seriously, in all probability, I would have "KEPT IT REAL" so-to-speak.

For all the talk about women being homewreckers etc...The truth is that men are no different. People are people!

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